Over time it is not uncommon for intimacy to suffer in a relationship. Many couples seek couples therapy to improve this area of their relationship. I will often hear things like, “I feel we are roommates.” or, “I just don’t feel as emotionally connected to my partner.” There are many ways to cultivate intimacy and deepen that emotional connection. Here are just a few exercises.

Make a day or two special

Pick one or a few days during the week with your partner to go above and beyond. Dress up, increase physical touch, make dinner together, just spend intentional quality time with each other. Make sure to communicate expectations and wants.

Tell each other the story of how you met

Reliving this time with your partner can help bring back feelings of excitement and positive shared memories. These feelings and memories reinforce you two are a couple not roommates.

Share an intimate fantasy 

Sharing an intimate fantasy may feel embarrassing, but it can be liberating. When you become vulnerable with your partner and they accept you this can lead to increased emotional depth.

Share with your partner what makes them special

We are all human, and humans love hearing compliments. Receiving compliments from your partner can help strengthen your feelings of intimacy. 

There are many other ways to increase emotional intimacy and the physical display of it. If you find your relationship suffering a Couples Therapist may be able to provide the jump start your relationship needs.